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Dear Andrea:We've been trying to sex up our sex life (we have been married 10 years and yes, things can get a little boring)...

All tied up

Dear Andrea:I'm from the Netherlands and stumbled on a Guardian column yours in which you say: "I don't believe you can get 'addicted' to...

alt.sex.column: Think Mulder

Dear Andrea:My girlfriend and I have been talking about fisting (vaginal). She wants to do it to me. I'm interested, I guess, but it...

alt.sex.column: A good fit

Dear Andrea:I want to have anal sex with my boyfriend. I read that you can wear a butt plug beforehand to prepare. True?Love,WillingDear Will:Good...

alt.sex.column: My sibling’s keeper

Dear Andrea:I'm having a problem with my brother. He wants to become a priest, and even though I want to be happy for him...

alt.sex.column: New is as new does

Dear Andrea:We have been happily married five years and I think we're kind of out of ideas for new things to do. I think...

alt.sex.column: Mixed marriage

Dear Readers:I was halfway through an answer to a reader's very interesting question when said reader wrote back and asked me not to. Instead...

alt.sex.column: Special goop

Dear Andrea:Have you seen those commercial for the new K-Y product, with all the geysers going off and so on? They're funny, but does...

alt.sex.column: Vanilla Shake

Dear Andrea:My husband and I are in our early 40s. We have been together 15 years and married for nine. We have sex about...

Oy-urveda

Dear Readers: This week's letter of greatest interest, a well-composed rant against my supposed blind devotion to Western medicine, ignorance of same, and lack of...

At your cervix

Dear Andrea: As long as I can remember, I've had a fascination with gyno play and playing doctor. I've grown more and more interested...

alt.sex.column: Search that drug

Where's the female viagra, already?

alt.sex.column: Don’t care

Dear Andrea:I'm 41 and finally starting to wonder why sex has never been as big a deal for me as it seems to be...

alt.sex.column: Clip show

Dear Readers:Nah, I'm not really going to saddle you with a "clips" column — that would be cheesy. But I do happen to have...

alt.sex.column: Eek! Eels in my …

Dear Andrea:My girlfriend asked me to demonstrate my most unorthodox masturbation techniques, and one of my inventions is the Fly on the Island. Catch...

alt.sex.column: In and Out

Dear Readers:I was watching a Buffy rerun recently when the trailer for the new movie Splice came on, and I startled myself yelling "No,...

Slow man

Dear Andrea:My male friend ( I'm a woman) and I have been together on and off for a little over a year. The problem...

alt.sex.column: I deserve a buzz

Dear Andrea:How is it humanly possible that I, a 42 year old man, talented, accomplished, tall, and fit, cannot get laid to save his...

alt.sex.column: Rubber soul

Dear Andrea:I have memories from early childhood onward of masturbating. (I'm a woman.) I'm talking when I was four years old or possibly even...

alt.sex.column: No sex, please — we’re 40

Dear Andrea:I'm 46 and seeking a hetro/bi woman my age who is authentically interested in a sexual relationship. I've heard many middle-aged women openly proclaim that...

alt.sex.column: The family that plays together

Dear Andrea:This summer different members of my family will be going in together on big a beach house. There's just one thing. "Heather" used...

alt.sex.column: Dizzy spell

Dear Andrea:You've written occasionally about infatuation, but is it really such a bad thing? It has driven even logical, structure-loving me to be romantic...

alt.sex.column: Maresy dotes

Dear Andrea:It's spring! Even though I live in California, it's exciting when spring comes. I mean literally exciting, as in, it makes me horny....

alt.sex.column: Oh, grow up!

Dear Andrea:My really sweet, nice new boyfriend is into S–M and I'm not sure I even understand the attraction. I can get behind the...