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Head First: Explosive Sexual Healing hurts so … good?

I’ve got a lot of repressed issues, and I came to San Francisco to try to get them resolved. But I never imagined a possible solution to my problems would be to have some...

Where are all the vanilla sexuality events?

I moved to the Bay Area this year with the intention of diving head first into kinky chaos. As far as repressed small town chicks go, I guess you could say I’m a daredevil....

Head First: On “dysfunction,” freaking out, and my huge, THC-fueled orgasms

I have very little experience with marijuana — mostly because I’m from a small, East Coast town where such a substance is referred to as “the Devil’s lettuce.”  So when Mathew Gerson, founder and...

New SFBG columnist dives into SF sex culture head first

I moved to the Bay Area seven months ago to escape my repressed, small town life on the East Coast and learn what it’s like to live in a sexually liberated culture. I...

Is Kink breaking up with SF?

Tales of local porn-purveyor Kink.com’s demise were reported early yesterday by Uptown Almanac, whose story, “Freak Flag May Not Fly Forever Over Kink’s Castle,” sounded the alarm. “It seems to have become not a question...

‘Venus in Fur’ electrifies at A.C.T.

Good lord, this play is hot, hot, hot. Rave reviews of its run in New York last year -- mostly heralding the rise of Broadway newcomer Nina Arianda -- gave me pause. Could our...

Save your Valentine’s Day date, order a bike-delivered condom

So your Valentine’s Day date is going great, way better than expected, and it’s looking like some hot sex might be where this is headed. But, d’oh, you forgot the condom! What to do?...

Sex culture, Kinky Salon, and the three Pollys

Polly Whitakker has been one of my favorite superstars of San Francisco sex culture, traveling a path from her native London through the Polly Pandemonium persona she created while getting into BDSM to the...

Bang with Friends buttons up, becomes DOWN

Even apps wanna play games with your heart — Bang with Friends has announced it will phase out its current, shameless name and make the switch to “DOWN,” a more “comfortable” brand that will...

Q&A: Dita Von Teese on gaining sexual confidence, creating beauty on her own terms

She is classy, beautiful, and sexually poised. She’s seductive, creative, and ambitious. She is world-famous burlesque dancer Dita Von Teese, and she is coming to SF this week (Wed/26 -Sat/29).Von Teese recently designed her...

Hot sexy events: Pride-perfect gear

Deep in the bowels of Stevenson Street, there lies a company that could. Could surf the waves of an ever-changing Internet, could accurately predict media consumption trends, could start the tech tsunami engulfing the...

Sexy events: Fatties rise up

Happy Pride Month everybody! This is neither sexy nor an event in the strictest sense, but anyone who doesn't kindle to forced body norms should know that we began this week with evolutionary psychology...

Hot sexy events: Ecosexual gurus want you in boot camp

You could be mistaken, in certain moments of Annie Sprinkle and Beth Stephens' ecosexuality activism, into passing it off as woo-woo nonsense. In a trailer for Goodbye Gauley Moutain, the two wear "mountain" costumes...

Hot sexy events: Aliens, etc.

You will have to excuse the few weeks that your sexy events column has taken off -- our Day-Glo phalanges have been so atwitter over tonight's extraterrestial sexuality event that every thing else has...

John Waters would love tonight’s Que(e)ry party — and more, from your week in sexy events

We've all seen the John Waters quote: “If you go home with somebody, and they don't have books, don't fuck 'em!” Baltimore's favorite trashy son, however, neglects to specify how to express your affection for...

Main Street’s sex club: Eros celebrates 21 years in business

A few things that you may not know about Eros, the 21-year old sex club with the unassuming, rainbow-flagged façade that stands across the street from the Castro Safeway strip mall. One: it is...

Kink.com beloved in Pope land! Local porn site among top downloaded in Vatican City [UPDATED]

A local anti-BDSM porn activist emailed me tidings of Flash magazine's Guatanamo-themed Coachella party this morning as proof that "Kink.com' s influence is spreading, albeit interrupted by the sex-negative Philistines of Coachella." Leaving aside the...

Standing on streetcorners naked, and this week’s sexy events

Memories of a taxi driver desperately trying to flag Courtney Trouble into his cab popped up unexpectedly today upon hearing the BBW queer pornographer discuss how the Madonna-inspired Guardian cover shoot last year for...

Hot sexy events: Nerd boobs, Bill Gates’ condom quest, and the Sheagle = landed

Hey, dudes who don't like condoms, has Bill Gates got your back or what? During the same month that the Pope Emeritus reincarnates as a wall of condoms, the tech bajillionaire has donated the...

Hot sexy events: Getting (a?)head in the boardroom

I've been reading Facebook chief operating officer Sheryl Sandberg's new book Lean In recently, which despite its rather class-specific advice and observations is a really great look at why we don't have enough women...

Bone, on: Here’s the week in sex events

Internet flame wars, naked people in Berkeley, fativism, shamrock-spangled stripper heels. Oh yep, that's this week in sex events.Hot and Heavy readingI've made no bones about the fact that I love Virgie Tovar's. That's...

How to get hot this week: sexy events

I was paging through my neon-orange-and-yellow copy of Tristan Taormino's Feminist Porn Book and generally feeling good about International Women's Day when I discovered that gah! I totally spaced and missed out on a really important...

Trouble down under: SF indie film banned in Australia

Cuddle porn, banned in Oz? The Australian Classification Board took exception with auteur Travis Mathews' tender look at life and love among gay men in San Francisco -- which included explicit sex scenes. Film fanatics at...

More on what consent means for BDSM porn: A performer speaks out

Having sex for money can change the dimensions of the kinds of acts you're willing to explore. That's a fact in a porno landscape that rewards greater physical punishment with greater paychecks (as it...