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alt.sex: Don’t be a dick

Dear Andrea:I'm not your average 20-something male. I love sex, but not unless its part of a relationship. I guess I think too highly of myself to tag random chicks meaninglessly. I do have...

Ars longa

"Now I just fantasize about the kind of women I used to get."

We are family

Dear Andrea:Is it OK to ask out my ex sister-in-law? I always thought she was hot. Now we are both divorced and I keep thinking, why not? Is there some reason I'm not thinking...

My heart belongs to daddy

andrea@mail.altsexcolumn.com Dear Andrea: OK, I get it about the hot moms, but what about dads? Does anyone ever talk about them? I remember when our son was younger and my husband would be out with him...

Winter wonderland

andrea@mail.altsexcolumn.com Dear Andrea: Every year I dread this season, not because I particularly hate the holidays, but because the short, dark days depress me. I talked to a therapist friend and she doesn't think I have...

Attack of the 50-foot MILF

andrea@mail.altsexcolumn.com Dear Andrea: I initially missed the hot-for-friend's-mother definition of MILF, and was introduced to the phrase, sweetly, by a former lover. He wasn't trying to separate the fuckable mothers from the nonfuckable, or fetishizing fecundity....

Blame it on mom

andrea@mail.altsexcolumn.com Dear Readers: We've done "cougars." We've done "MILFs." But surely it's been a while since we did "older women vs. gold-diggers?" We have to give each generation equal opportunity to blame and/or objectify every other...

MILFbone

andrea@mail.altsexcolumn.com Dear Andrea: Since you were so good as to weigh in on "cougar" , perhaps you could settle the evident controversy around the correct usage of "MILF?" I think a MILF (Mother I'd Like to...

In the mood

andrea@mail.altsexcolumn.com Dear Andrea: I get irritable with my boyfriend when he doesn't want to have sex. This doesn't happen that often — we've been together less than a year and have sex most times we're together,...

Return to Cougar Town

andrea@mail.altsexcolumn.com Dear Readers: I was going to write more this week about body size, body image, and sex, but I'm stupid sick, so here's an older one about age instead. It's all connected anyway. Don't...

Fat lot of good

andrea@mail.altsexcolumn.com Dear Andrea: I have a feeling this is not the best way to get a sympathetic response from you, but it' a real problem for me and I like your advice, so I thought I...

The zone

andrea@mail.altsexcolumn.com Dear Andrea: I read an article (I think it was in Redbook) that listed six little known erogenous zones or "hot zones." One was big toes, which they said has a direct connection to the...

Perv 101

andrea@mail.altsexcolumn.com Dear Andrea: I guess this is pretty common, but it's not something I have any experience with, so please bear with me. I have a lot of fantasies about being tied up, humiliated, etc. and often...

Tickling 2.0

andrea@mail.altsexcolumn.com Dear Andrea: It was very interesting to me that you wrote about tickling last week . I actually had that experience as a kid, being tickled by an uncle (actually he was my father's cousin,...

Ticklish allsorts

andrea@mail.altsexcolumn.com Dear Andrea: I have had a fetish for ticklish women all my life. (I used to like tickling my sisters, even, although I guess that sounds kind of weird now that I think of it...

No gag

andrea@mail.altsexcolumn.com Andrea is currently on vacation. This column originally ran in June 2006. Dear Andrea: About getting past my gag reflex while giving blow jobs: I have no idea of what's the best way to practice this....

Ooo, hard

andrea@mail.altsexcolumn.com Andrea is on vacation. This column originally ran 5/21/08. Dear Andrea: I'm confused. Are there any guys out there who aren't at the extremes as far as sex goes? My ex-boyfriend was completely obsessed. Not only...

Rear window

andrea@mail.altsexcolumn.com Dear Andrea: My lover and I have amazing sex. We love each other dearly too. We've been seeing each other for three years with no decrease in intensity. I'm 45, he's 37, and I've got...

Wild thing

Dear Andrea: I've read your column (and other sex columns) for years, and one thing I always notice you saying is that all fantasies are OK, and fantasizing about something can't hurt anything. But what...

Inflatable darling

andrea@mail.altsexcolumn.com Dear Andrea: We were watching Mythbusters and they were using inflatable dolls instead of crash test dummies. That didn't work very well, but it did make me wonder, does anyone ever use those for actual...

Nothing ventured

andrea@mail.altsexcolumn.com Dear Andrea: I am straight (?), married 12 years, and have always been faithful to my husband. Before we were together, I had sex with a few boyfriends — nothing crazy. I did used to have...

Unfriends with benefits

andrea@mail.altsexcolumn.com Dear Andrea: Back in my wild and crazy early 20s, I met a beautiful man through his 17-year- old brother. The brother asked him to buy cigarettes, so without really investigating, I assumed this guy...

Am I blue?

andrea@mail.altsexcolumn.com Dear Andrea: The woman I just started seeing likes fooling around for hours with all our clothes on and isn't ready for sex. I like waiting too, except I have a medical condition called varicoceles, which...

The one true way

andrea@mail.altsexcolumn.com Dear Readers: WebMD sent out this slightly goofy "10 Amazing Health Benefits of Sex." Among the benefits of "healthy loving in a relationship," according to the article (summaries mine) are: 1. Less stress: Volunteers kept sex...